At other times Christians had offered shallow counsel, suggesting that he change his behavior simply by memorizing random Bible verses or forcing himself to act differently. Because of these painful experiences, Brian was a bit tentative in our initial meetings. Recognizing Brian’s apprehension, I sought to assure him that while he was struggling with certain issues, I had areas in my own life that needed attention as well. Our goal would be to go to the Lord together to “receive mercy and find grace